To continue riding my current hobby horse of anti-entitlement, and considering current discussion trends, it seems fitting to talk about man’s entitlement to women–well not their minds, (who cares), but their bodies most importantly.
So I have the task of riding (maybe flogging) a horse, as well as jumping on-board the proverbial wagon.
It seems common to label Elliot Rodger as either a psychopath or a misogynist. Surely he’s both. Regardless of that, it has led to a media—social or otherwise—flurry about misogyny and feminism more generally.
I think that can only be a good thing, provided it doesn’t descend into misandry.
So why is it that women can be so easily objectified in Western society? What are the reasons, on a personal level, that lead many men to feel they deserve a woman to look a certain way, or behave in a way they like, or even, simply that they’re entitled to ‘have’ a girl at all.
I agree that institutions like Hollywood have often helped turn women into meat, but it’s a cop out to blame them and the likes of Hugh Heffner for doing what they do: business.
If you don’t like a product you don’t buy it. If the product doesn’t sell, the business goes broke.
Apparently, based on the unchanged role of women (seems to be aesthetic appeal) in mainstream movies, we, the consumers are happy with the product: sex sells. But why? Why is it so easy to change a person into a product for our entertainment?
I suspect it comes back to entitlement. I’m sure many feminist academics have traced the historical roots of misogyny, so I won’t go into detail, but I would argue that in the end it is based on a male assumption that women were created/evolved to be the deserved possession of men.
Now of course I’m not pretending that everyone is included in ‘mainstream’, but by definition, it is the majority of us.
‘I’m not like that’ many guys would say.
And I hope they’re right, but really? Have they never thought that they deserved a girl? Even sub-consciously at the time?
Claiming that men have been socially conditioned to feel they deserve women, may have some truth in it. But that can be used as an excuse for all kinds of behaviour.
This social conditioning surely came about in the first place based on some entitlement complex that led men to believe that they somehow deserved women, for no other reason one can assume, than because that’s what they wanted.
Regardless of the way society and culture can exacerbate a problem, shifting blame doesn’t fix anyone .
You can’t fix society by simply saying it’s got a problem.